How we’re doing so far …


So the question that seems to be on everyone’s mind lately (that I talk to) is how we’re doing. And the long and short of it, is that we’re actually doing pretty good! But I won’t lie … that day back in Seoul, when we brought Callahan back to the hotel was rough. Super rough.

When we left Holt, Callahan was perfectly fine. Happy even. Me? Well, I was a crying mess. I love our Foster Mom. I love that she so passionately loves the babies in her care. I can see where some might perceive her ‘passion’ as ‘possessive’, but there’s nothing she wouldn’t do or give me if she thought I needed/wanted it for Callahan. She sent us to the hotel with 5 HUGE bags. I’m talking HUGE. EVERYTHING we could have possibly needed was in there. I seriously could have brought ZERO items for Callahan and we would have been just fine. Inside some of the large bags, she had vacuumed sealed bags filled with clothes. And not just for him, but for Claire & Charlie too. Her thoughtfulness was overwhelming.  OH! And her daughter (Callahan’s Foster Sister) works at Paris Baguette, so she made us  a Tiramisu Cake and brought us two boxes of these mini cake thingys. AWESOME.

As we got into the taxi, Callahan’s Foster Mom and Sister were crying. I was holding Callahan, but still tried to give our Foster Mom a big hug. I thanked her over and over and told her that I loved her. Bob got in first, and then I climbed in after him while Callahan sat on my lap and just looked out the window. His Foster Mom and Sister started saying good-bye to him and Callahan started bowing (they had taught him how to do that). That’s when it just became too much for me, and I couldn’t look anymore. So as we drove away, I didn’t look back.

The taxi ride went by rather quick. I was able to pull myself together and surprisingly, Callahan was happy and completely entertained looking out the window. When we arrived back at the hotel, we ran into our friends, the Woods (who had just picked up their son the day before) so it was fun to have a moment to show off our new little guy. Then we gathered our bags and headed up to our room.

Callahan was very curious and just walked around checking everything out. His favorite was to go to the window and look down below. So I pulled out the bubbles I had brought and started blowing them, but he wasn’t that interested. So we pulled out some other books and toys, and then I remembered the Pororo phone we had bought the day before when went to Lotte Mart. He LOVED it. He would take the phone and play the songs, and then hold it up to his ear and say, ‘Omma, Omma’ and laugh really hard. After about 15 minutes of playing and laughing, he held the phone up to his ear and said again, ‘Omma, Omma’ – and then he froze. It was as if all of the sudden it just clicked – his Omma was not there. And he freaked.

That’s when the screaming started. He was frantic. Hysterical. He kept pointing to the door, wanting to leave and he was crying so hard. He came to me and I held him. He laid his head to my chest and then leaned back to look up at me. And when he saw my face, he literally did a double take and screamed. He then ran to Bob and has clung to him ever since. Our Foster Mom commented on how she thought we looked like we could be related (and I can actually see what she’s saying) and she thought it would help Callahan’s transition, but I think in this case, it actually made it worse (the interesting thing, is when we were at Holt, Callahan would interact with me more than Bob. In fact, he hardly interacted with Bob at all).

So fast forward to now. Callahan is still super attached to Bob. In fact, I would say that he has a touch of ‘anxious attachment’ as he’ll freak a little if he can’t see Bob. He will come to me, play with me, let him feed him food, but bottles still need to come from Bob, and Bob is the one who is co-sleeping with him right now. It actually works out for us though, as I can be free to tend to Claire and Charlie. So for now, we’re kind of already into a decent routine (but talk to me again in 3 weeks when Bob goes back to work … I may be singing a different tune).

My parents came down today for a short visit, so we headed over to the park. This was our first real ‘outing’ since being home, and Callahan did GREAT in his carseat!

he LOVED the sprinklers!

until one got him in the eye

Claire & Charlie decided to go down the slide together

and Callahan got in on the fun as well

So I guess I should say that things are going as well as can be expected. The kiddos are still adjusting to each other, and as Parents, we’re trying to figure out how to balance the attention and needs of all three of them. It’s funny, Bob and I will compare the ‘transitions’ of Callahan and Charlie as they are SO vastly different from each other. In some areas, Charlie did ‘better’ and in others Callahan does. I guess it just goes to show how each child is so different, and I don’t know if there’s any one way to do things, or how to fully prepare oneself for what’s about to happen.

But I am so thankful for our little family of 5. It’s hard to believe that we’re here together. We’re not just looking at a picture anymore, but we have our son, in our arms and living life together. I’ll be honest. It’s pretty awesome.

Jae - June 7, 2012 - 6:27 pm

The bowing…how did you not weep at that point?!!! You’re a beautiful family that is so lucky to have each other!

Leah - June 7, 2012 - 9:43 pm

OMG! The looking back part just killed me! Because you know how much that feeling hurts! Ugggg! Everyday makes it better and better though, and you guys are moving on! So happy for ya, all 5 of y’as! :)

Donna - June 8, 2012 - 7:29 pm

Thanks so much for the update. My heart hurt for you when you talked about driving away and then again in the hotel. I’m so glad that it’s getting easier day by day. I love reading your updates! Such a beautiful family!

we made it! We’re back!

Sorry to keep you all hanging like that. Things DID get progressively better and we made it home safe and sound. There is so much I want to share (and document) but life with three kiddos is keeping me busy. Thank goodness Bob is home for three more weeks. Callahan has bonded to Bob first and is actually showing signs of anxious attachment (where he starts to freak out if he can’t see Bob) but overall, we’re really happy with his progress.

So now I’m going to head to bed, but here’s a quick photo of our newest addition. I can’t believe he’s actually home!

Lacey - June 5, 2012 - 10:30 pm

Wow those kiddos must be keeping you busy to get you in bed this early! :) Cant wait to hear more and to meet up for a playdate when you guys are all settled into routine.

Jill - June 6, 2012 - 9:53 am

Callahan ia absolutely beautiful, Rachel! Congrats on your newest addition and becoming a family of 5!!! Looking forward to more of your posts when time permits ; )

Leah - June 6, 2012 - 9:11 pm

Ha, I was wondering how the heck you’d have time to actually think, much less put a post on! lol Love the picture of Cal! Yah, for being home! No place like it! Except maybe in Seoul, our second “home”! :)

I’m sorry to disappoint …


I meant to do a blog post earlier, but things got busy and it was time to leave for our Agency.


We have Callahan. He was great during the meeting and on the cab ride home. About 15 minutes after returning to the hotel, he starting grieving. It’s painful. It’s difficult. And my heart is breaking.


I will write more when I can, but for now, I covet your prayers. Bob is a TROOPER as Callahan has attached to him first (which I fully expected).


Lord, please help us through this night.


Leah - June 1, 2012 - 8:00 am

:( BIG HUGS to everyone!

Jill - June 1, 2012 - 10:18 am

Thinking of you guys and praying for you all. Sending big hugs to all of you!

Tina Menze - June 4, 2012 - 11:49 am

Thinking of you. Hope you are all doing well & on your way home safely soon! You’re a mom to 3! Congratulations & get as much sleep as you can :)

Taking in the sights and sounds

I’m awake. I’ve eaten breakfast and I’m actually not tired, so I figured I might as well update the ol’ blog while I have a chance. Today one of my ‘Adoption Friends’ is picking up their son. Actually – their ‘meeting’ starts in 10 minutes. (and I think my heart just started racing for them!) If their son is doing well when they get back, I’ll be taking some family photos of them. I’m SUPER excited about it! There’s another family we met who got their son yesterday, and I’ll be taking photos of them too. So I’m totally looking forward to this afternoon.

Yesterday, Bob and I headed over to Namdaemun Market (I have no clue if I spelled that right, and I’m actually too lazy to look it up). So here are a few pictures of that little adventure. Just as a disclaimer, every time I took my camera out, it started to rain. So some of these shots were taken with my iphone as well. So I apologize in advance about the quality.

The market places are fun here. There’s just so much to look at and take in. And the shopping goes on and on and on. The main objective was to get to the kids section as I wanted to find some stuff for the kiddos at home.

Inside the children’s area, are rows and rows of these ‘stall’ like ‘shops’. I think some of them were literally 4×4 feet. It was crazy. There was so much cute stuff, but I’ll be honest … it wasn’t that cheap. But I did find a couple of things that I felt we couldn’t live without. Something I found so neat (but couldn’t get a picture of) was watching the Ajummas sit together and eat by their ‘shops’.  Some would sit on the counter space crossed legged, while others sat on a chair or even on the floor. Together they would share a tray filled with small dishes of rice, kimchi, tofu stew, or whatnot. I would hear their voices as they would chat and laugh and just enjoy each others company. And I’ll be honest, I kinda wanted to join them.

But instead, Bob and I went out to see if we could find us some street food. And of course, we did.

I’ll be honest. I have no clue what this stuff is. But we decided to try it anyway. Plus, it looked really good.

You were able to just pick up your own skewer and I think it cost us $2 bucks for one. Which isn’t a bad deal – and we shared.

Up Close and Personal

I think there was imitation crab inside? Again, not sure, but it was good!

We turned down a side alley and found this whole strip of little restaurants that had ‘examples’ of all their dishes. And all of them looked delicious!

I keep forgetting the name of the stuff I’m eating, but it’s ‘rice cake’ with a sweet and spicy sauce. Super good. And super cheap. The only thing that would have made it better is if I had a bigger bowl and a bigger bottle of water.

Outside one of the restaurants were these huge vats of soup. I’m not sure what kind they are, but I’m assuming they are pretty popular … since they were SUPER huge containers.

We saw these two bins outside of one of the restaurants. Inside: LIVE EELS. Crazy. We didn’t get any closer than this (and I have a zoom lens).

Later we went to this restaurant in Insadong. They are known for their Bibimbap and it is SOOOOO good! I ate here the last time I was in Korea, so I was stoked to be able to take Bob this time.

And let me just say – I think their kimchi was the best I’ve ever had. It was incredible!

Sometimes in Korea you see funny signs. Like this one.

a little Jass anyone?

Later we met up with some friends from College who are teaching English in Seoul! Who would have guessed? It was fun to hang out and we were able to bring them some stuff from ‘home’. Like Brownie Mix and Frosting. In Korea – that put them back $33. No.Joke.

So now I must go, as Bob has some shopping place he wants us to visit (I know, eat your hearts out ladies) and then hopefully we can meet up with some other families and their kiddos.

Overall, I love being here. It’s so much fun and I’m SO happy and thankful and grateful that I get to experience this wonderful place again. And the icing on the cake is that I get to share it with Bob. Oh – and just a heads up – we’ll be getting Callahan on Friday at 3:30p MY TIME. Which I think is 11:30p PST on Thursday. Whatever the case – it’s tomorrow. And I can hardly wait!

Leah - May 30, 2012 - 10:35 pm

Ah man! Love the pictures! I can smell it too. I will never forget the smell of that place! Ahhhhhhh! Can’t wait to hear you’ve got Callahan! So…. you gonna have the ugly cry session? Just curious. :)

Christina - May 30, 2012 - 11:25 pm

Thank you for sharing mama!! I would love to experience that. I am SO excited for you and Bob!! What a blessing!

Jill - May 31, 2012 - 9:49 am

So excited for you, Rachel!!! I measnt to text you before you left on Monday, but it’s been so crazy here — I loved the photos. I can’t wait to see Callahan in your arms! So happy for you and your family ; )

jet lag

Okay, so this is going to be SUPER short. I’m SUPER tired. Normally I stay up until midnight or 1am when I’m at home … so the fact that it’s not quite 10pm and I’m basically delirious from being so tired, is new for me.

We did some shopping today – nothing too major and had some good food. I’ll post pictures tomorrow, but I think I have to cave and go to sleep. I just can’t stay awake anymore.

Leah - May 30, 2012 - 5:59 am

Just reading the words “Jet Lag” makes me cringe! Nighty Nighty!! :)

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